Dealing with Sad News
Okay, sometimes we need to talk about serious stuff.
I wish the world of clowning was all rainbows and lollipops. I wish that we all got along, shared the joy of clowning and were one big happy community…
…but I’m not that disillusioned.
Every time you turn around there is more bad news or sad news. I guess that’s life.
But how do we deal with it?
Saying Goodbye to a Clown
This past week a big name in clowning passed away on a beautiful day in Hawaii surrounded by family cracking jokes until the end. My friend Steve Long “Peachey Keene” made the last walk around.
I’m sure you could fill in the blank with someone else’s name and feel the same. Losing a beloved colleague in clowning is a blow. Because of our unique personalities as clowns we lose two people. We lose our friend AND we lose our clown friend.
I got out my Peachey Keene props recently and marveled at their creativity, and recalled how much fun I have had using them.
I remember the fun times laughing together, crabbing together, talking about life. I’ve looked at pictures of the big man of big foam props and remembered his big friendship and big laugh. I loved to watch him perform with his larger than life character, his childish glee and sheer joy of being on stage.
I will miss both of my friends greatly, Peachey Keene and Steve Long.
But it is a joyful passing as I know he had such health troubles over the years. For the most part he was able to keep his independence. He was with his family.
He was a wonderful human being.
If you have a remembrance of Peachey Keene, I would LOVE it if you would post a comment below. Tell me your favorite memory of him!
“He did WHAT!? I don’t believe it!!!”
Now there is a different kind of loss we can suffer in the clown world, and that is when someone we admire disappoints us.
I will not name names here, but if you follow social media you will know. And this isn’t the first time we have been shocked. The clown community is no stranger to this kind of disappointment.
Sometimes people we trust and admire do bad things. For clowns it is really hard to reconcile the performer we admire, with the person who does something really wrong.
How do we comes to terms with it and move on?
- First we are in disbelief:
It just can’t be true! The person I know and admire would never do something like that.
- Second is the anger:
How could they be so stupid! They had everything going for them. How could they do something like that!
- Third is the sadness:
You can never look at this person the same again. We trusted them believed in them admired them honored them. Only to find out they were human, and possibly not the person we thought they were.
- Fourth, I hope, will be acceptance:
Yes this person I put on a pedestal has fallen off in the most horrible egregious way. There will be consequences. I may be disappointed; but their life will never be the same, nor will those of the people they hurt. I will forgive them for being human, for making bad choices, I will pray for healing and understanding for all.
Forgiveness is not a free pass. It in no way says we agree with a wrong someone has done. But it does say that we accept that this person has flaws and has caused harm. It is better than ignoring it, bottling it up, or refusing to accept it. Forgiveness allows us to move on.
Liked what you saw here? Sign up for a free subscription to Mooseburger Newz by email:
Mooseburger Clown Arts Education has been running one of the world’s most well-rounded clown schools since 1996. Performers from all over the globe travel to Minnesota each summer for a fun and intensive clown training program. Each aspect of our clown camp is designed to meet your needs and boost your confidence as an entertainer.
Whether you want to join the circus, visit nursing homes, run your own birthday party business, paint faces, or twist balloons, there is something just for you at Mooseburger Clown Arts Camp.
Or call me toll-free to discuss your education and see if Mooseburger is the right fit for you: 800-973-6277